Why are we unhappy? What are the things in our lives that make us wish our lives were drastically different?
What bad habits do we need to change? Sure, we don’t always have control over the things that happen to us, but we CAN change our perspective and our responses.
What if we were intentional about removing things from our lives that don’t add joy or peace?
“I am such a failure; I can’t do anything right. I’m so stupid!” This kind of talk is poison to your mind. It causes you to lose confidence and hope, and it keeps you from trying the things that have the potential to make you feel accomplished and happy. The habit can also harm your relationships; it’s very hard to truly love someone when you don’t love yourself.
When you start to spiral into an abyss of self-loathing, stop right then and think of 5 good things about yourself. Write them down if you can.
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Gossip rips people apart. It creates resentment and frustration, and it destroys relationships slowly. We may fool ourselves into thinking that just because the person being talked about isn’t there, there is no harm. But hearing someone else talk negatively about a friend changes our perception of that person, even if we don’t realize it at first.
Also, what Mom said was probably right- If your friends talk about others around you, they’re probably talking about you with others.
Waiting for _______ to make you happy
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “When I get married, I’ll be happy!”? How about, “If I just had a baby, I would be happy.”?
Always needing the next big thing to make you happy creates disillusionment with your life and breeds discontent. And to be honest, once you have that thing that you swore would bring happiness, you’ll probably just start looking for something else. We tend to settle into our lives and feel bored, and then we start looking for something to fill the void.
Find things about your life right now that are wonderful. Cultivate gratitude.
Living an unhealthy lifestyle
Sleeping late, eating lots of fast food or sugar, hours and hours of Netflix of video games- all of these things, in excess, are harmful to us. Making small changes can really bring about big change. Set your alarm and get out of bed without hitting snooze. Replace the fast food with a healthy meal cooked at home. Cut back (or cut out!) sugar. Instead of spending hours watching tv or playing video games, try reading a book or taking a walk.
I am a perfectionist, which means I have very high standards for myself, my work, my relationships, and my life. Often, these expectations aren’t reasonable, and they can really alter my level of contentment and happiness.
Standards should be [reasonably] high; otherwise you won’t be successful. But make sure what you expect is doable, and be ready to give grace when those expectations aren’t met. People aren’t perfect, and to demand perfection will only cause trouble and take away happiness.
What are some other things that should be removed from our lives?